Monday, August 26, 2013

Consensual Sex With Minor or Major: Is it Good?

A lot of debate and arguments are going on regarding the subject of Consensual Sex nowadays in all corners of society. Today also all the leading newspapers carried on headlines the news of A Delhi Court maintaining that consensual sex with a minor girl does not constitute an offense or crime under Protection of Children from Sexual Offences (POCSO) Act.

Legally, it may not be a crime as both parties are willingly committing it with mutual consent and understanding and dare. May be their parents, relatives and society may not like it or approve it. But who cares?


The offenders (both the two persons committing the act) do not want to care for their elders or society. Because they want to have the pleasure and experience of sex. Moreover, they think they have the right to enjoy the bodily pleasures and they are free to act as per their will and wish. Nobody have any right to infringe on their freedom.


But is it morally good? Ethically right? Don't you have any moral and ethical values and obligations towards your family and society? Are you not tarnishing the image of yourself and your family by indulging in such acts? You are meant to concentrate on your studies and build up career to establish solid foundation to your life. If you go astray by such things, you will become weak and unable to control your feelings and your goal of life will become difficult to be attained. What is the use of such sexual indulgence when you are unable to grow up your personality and career?  We are not animals to live astray. We are human beings and have some moral codes and human values to distinguish us from animals. If we behave like animals, then what is the difference between an ass and a man?


The Court has done a very good job by stressing the need for creating public awareness on the disadvantages of indulging in sex at tender ages such as physical and psychological impacts on your body and mind. But it has given the stress more on implications of sex and marriage at tender ages.


But I would like to draw the attention of all institutions to create a solid public awareness among all ages of people regarding the bad implications of having sex outside marriage on their personality development as well as the image of our social and ethical values of life.


All crimes on women are deep rooted in this evil lifestyle of indulging in sex outside marriage. Sex is not to be construed merely as a means of physical enjoyment. It is much more than that. It is a mental bondage between a couple. It involves an obligation of taking the responsibility of the partner at all times in all circumstances by the other partner. It is an attachment of body and soul. So it should be a relationship for the whole of your life and not to be treated as a temporary relationship for the time being. If it ends up temporarily, then it leads to many complications in your life both mentally and physically. It can lead to depression and psychological break down. So better avoid it in the beginning itself by controlling yourself.


Maintaining friendships among opposite sex is a good thing. But it should be confined to friendship only. You can maintain most intimacy and love your friend dearly and share all your pleasures and sorrows. But maintain control. Physically there must be some border between you however close you might be. Impose some self disciplines upon yourself. Look at your traditional heritage and culture. You can read books depicting moral characters who maintain deep friendships under one roof but are physically very controlled and maintain norms and ideals. There are such ideal characters in novels of one Telugu writer Yaddanapudi Sulochana Rani. Read such novels in other languages also or watch movies and TV serials with ideal characters to educate and grow up yourself with a good personality.


So the main point of discussion is not whether it is consensual sex with a minor or a major. The discussion and solution to be sought is for the problem of sex itself outside the institution of marriage. This evil practice should be eradicated from our society. Enjoy sex after marrying. Till then only friendship. That friendship is to be an ideal one. Don't think of sex at all. Give and take respect and love. Share knowledge and feelings. Enjoy happy and sad events jointly. Be helpful and protective to each other in all circumstances. Remember each other lifelong as the best friend of your life. That should be the relation between you and your girl friend.

Let Us Make A Good Society.



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