Consensual Sex With Minor or Major

A lot of debate and arguments are going on regarding the subject of Consensual Sex nowadays in all corners of society.

All the leading newspapers carried on headlines the news of A Delhi Court maintaining that consensual sex with a minor girl does not constitute an offense or crime under Protection of Children from Sexual Offences (POCSO) Act.

Legally, it may not be a crime as both the parties are willingly committing it with mutual consent and understanding.

But, I couldn't believe how they dare to do such acts.

Maybe their parents, relatives, and the society around them may also not like those acts or approve such unethical acts.

But who cares?


The offenders (both those persons committing the act) do not want to care for their elders or society. Because they want to have the pleasure and experience of sex. Moreover, they think they have the right to enjoy the bodily pleasures and they are free to act as per their will and wish. Nobody has any right to infringe on their freedom.


But, is it morally good? Ethically right?

Don't you have any moral and ethical values and obligations towards your family and society?

Are you not tarnishing the image of yourself, your partner, and your family by indulging in such acts?

You are meant to concentrate on your studies and build up a good career to establish some solid foundation for your life.

If you go astray by such things, you will become weak and unable to control your feelings and your goal of life will become difficult to be attained.

What is the use of such sexual indulgence when you are unable to grow up your personality and career?

We are not animals to live astray. We are human beings and have some moral codes and human values to distinguish us from animals. If we behave like animals, then what is the difference between an ass and a man?


The Court has done a very good job by stressing the need for creating public awareness on the disadvantages of indulging in sex at tender ages such as physical and psychological impacts on your body and mind. But it has given the stress more on implications of sex and marriage at tender ages.


I would like to draw the attention of all institutions to create a solid public awareness among all ages of people regarding the bad implications of having sex outside of their marriage.

All crimes on women are deep-rooted in this evil lifestyle of indulging in sex outside marriage.

Sex is not to be construed merely as a means of physical enjoyment.

It is much more than that. It is a mental bondage between a couple.

Sexual relation involves an obligation of taking the responsibility of the partner at all times in all circumstances by the other partner. It is an attachment of body and soul.

Sexual contact should be a relationship for the whole of your life and not be treated as a temporary relationship for the time being to enjoy some momentary material pleasure.

If it ends up temporarily, then it leads to many complications in your life both mentally and physically.

It can lead to depression and psychological breakdown.

So better avoid it at the beginning itself by controlling yourself.


Maintaining friendships even among opposite sex is a good thing. But it should be confined to friendship only.

You can maintain most intimacy and even love your friend dearly to share all your pleasures and sorrows.

But have some control. Do not turn to sex.

There should be some border between you, however close you might be.

Impose some self-disciplines upon yourself.

Look at your family heritage and culture.

You can read books depicting moral characters who maintain deep friendships under one roof but are physically very controlled and maintain norms and ideals. There are such ideal characters in novels of one Telugu writer Yaddanapudi Sulochana Rani. Read such novels in other languages also or watch movies and TV serials with ideal characters to educate and grow up yourself with a good personality.


So, the main point of discussion is not whether it is consensual sex with a minor or a major.

The discussion and solution to be sought are, for the problem of sex itself outside the institution of marriage.

This evil practice should be eradicated from our society.

Enjoy sex after marrying.

Till then, only friendship. That friendship is to be an ideal one.

Don't think of sex at all. Give and take respect and love. Share knowledge and feelings. Enjoy happy and sad events jointly. Be helpful and protective of each other in all circumstances.

You can maintain friendship and remember each other lifelong as the best friend of your life.

That should be the relation between you and your girlfriend. It is an ideal friendship.

Let Us Make A Good Society.

Sex And Marriage

A lot of fuss is going on regarding the age of consent for sex and the age for marriage.

Discussion for deciding the minimum age of marriage is Okay.

But, I don't see the need for discussing the topic of the age of consent for having sex.

Why should we decide the age of consent to have sex at all? Sex will be there automatically when one is married or matured. Why think of sex and get deprived of other values of life?

• The modern generation has already become more and more materialistic and sexually extra conscious. 
• Ethical and moral values of men have decreased very much. 
• Everywhere, we witness crimes and violence. 
• Each person wants his own selfish enjoyment and growth at the cost of others. 
• Nobody cares about the others. He does not even hesitate for a while in causing trouble to other people for attaining his own desired motive.

In such an environment, publicly debating and wasting time in fixing an age of consent to have sex is very irrelevant. It indirectly implies that the institutions are encouraging the public to have sex among teenagers.

Our institutions should concentrate more on other important issues of life like giving a standard education to children and through that education make them aware of our moral and ethical values of life. And, concentrate more on eradicating the social evils of life and in the upliftment of living standards of people.

• Students must concentrate more on their studies and their health improvement. 
• Enjoyment of sex will be there on time after one is fully matured.
• They should not look for sex till their education is complete and get settled in their life.

Indulging in sex will distract your concentration from other goals of achievements. So, until education is completed, your priority should be your studies and in getting higher degrees and, thereafter, in getting a better career. Until then, sex should not be indulged in. Better devote extra time to improving health and in extra-curricular activities and the development of some nice hobbies. You may spend time with friends for improving these healthy habits and in building up your career.


What is alarming is matured parents debating over the age of consent for sex. Instead of taking care that younger generation does not involve in sexual indulgence, they discuss it publicly as if some most important thing of career is discussed.

We must not encourage sex before settlement in life and if it happens by mistake or spontaneously, we must guide those youngsters to be reasonable and not get flown by emotions.

So, do not waste your time in fixing the age of consent for sex.

One thing more I may want to point out is that sex should not be treated as a mere physical enjoyment.

It is more of a mental joy and peace.

When you have sex with your partner, besides the physical enjoyment, you will be experiencing a pure mental love and satisfaction with your partner. So, when enjoying it after marriage with your spouse, the bondage between both of you will become stronger (both mentally and physically) which will be more fruitful and eternal.