Thursday, March 21, 2013

Sex And Marriage

A lot of fuss is going on regarding age of consent for sex and age for marriage. Discussion for deciding minimum age of marriage is Okay. But I don't see the need for discussing the first one ie. deciding the age of consent  for having sex.

Why should we decide the age of consent to have sex at all? Sex will be there automatically when one is married or matured. Why think of sex and get deprived of other values of life?


The modern generation has already become more and more materialistic and sexual conscious. Ethical and moral values have decreased very much. Everywhere we witness crime and violence. Everybody wants his own selfish enjoyment and growth at the cost of others. No one cares for others. He does not even hesitate  for a while in causing trouble to others for attaining his own desired motive.


In such an environment, publicly debating and wasting time in fixing an age of consent to have sex is very irrelevant. It implies indirectly that the institutions are propagating to have sex among teenagers. One should concentrate more on other problems like giving a standard education to children and along with education make them aware of our moral and ethical values of life. And concentrate more on eradicating social evils and in the upliftment of living standards of people.


Students must concentrate more on their studies and health improvement. Enjoyment of sex will be there on time. But they should not look for it till their education is complete and they settle in their life.


Indulging in sex will distract your concentration from other goals of achievements. So until education is completed, your priority should be at your studies and in getting high degrees and there after in getting a better career. Until then, sex should not be indulged in. Better devote extra time in health build up and extra-curricular activities and development of hobbies. You may spend time with friends for improving these healthy habits and in building up your career.


What is alarming is matured parents debating over the age of consent  for sex. Instead of taking care that younger generation does not involve in sexual indulgence, they discuss it publicly as if some most important thing of career is discussed. We must not encourage sex before settlement in life and if it happens by mistake or spontaneously, we must guide them to be reasonable and not get flown by emotions. So do not waste time in fixing age of consent for sex.


One thing more I may want to point out is that sex should not be treated as mere physical enjoyment. It is more of mental joy and peace. When you have sex with your partner, besides physical enjoyment, you will experience a pure mental love and satisfaction with your partner. So when enjoying it after marriage with your spouse the bondage between you will become more strong both mentally and physically which will be eternal.